I know that I can only speak for myself, but I have the terrible habit of opening my mouth and blurting something out before my mind has had time to process it and determine if that is something that should or should not have been said. Sometimes it works to my favor, as it is something extremely funny and it makes everyone laugh (which by the way is one of my quarks, I feel like I always have to make people laugh and make them happy, not sure why I do that, perhaps some intense therapy may help but I will save that for another day) other times it comes out all wrong and winds up offending or upsetting the person. The latter scenario sucks, and it is not one that I like to find myself in.

I need to take into account that not everyone is like me, I am the type that does not get offended easily nor do my feelings get hurt easily, but that does not mean that everyone else is like me (although it would make for a perfect world if they were, but I digress). Being mindful of other people’s feelings is important, it is something I need to work on. When I say things without thinking, I have no idea what is going on in that person’s life at the time, maybe they are having an extremely bad day and I am the straw that broke the camels back.

Now I am not advocating that one should not say what is on their mind, what I am advocating is that you think before you speak, and understand that what you are about to say may offend someone or several people depending on the situation and you are prepared (well as best as you can be) for the potential fall out of your comment. At least by doing this, you have given some thought to what you are going to say and you know that it may not sit well with everyone. On the flip side, there are those people who could not care any less as to what people think about what they say, and that is OK to, that is just how they are. For me, I often find myself in the conundrum where I do care about everyone’s feelings and I always want to make people happy and I blurt out stuff without thinking. Not always the best scenario to be in.

I know I have work to do (old habits die hard, I have been this way as long as I can remember), so it will be a work in progress. Until the time comes that I change (do not hold your breath, I can guarantee that it will be quite some time), please bare with me, I do not mean to hurt your feelings, it is just that my mouth has gotten the best of me.